The anti-Andrew Tate: how youth workers can counteract the impact of masculinity influencers

Andrew Tate online content creator, podcaster, former kickboxer, and subject of ongoing human trafficking investigations – has gained widespread influence with millions of men and boys. Tate promotes financial independence, being “mentally and physically strong,” and being successful with women, interspersed with (sometimes violent) misogyny.

For my PhD research, I worked with 30 boys and young men aged between 16 and 19 from working-class backgrounds in Belfast, researching on the role of social connection to protect mental health. In the interviews I carried out, Tate’s name came up constantly.

I found that almost all the participants had positive or mixed feelings about him. Even those less certain of him appreciated his financial advice or advocacy for men’s mental health. While other masculinity influencers were also mentioned, none achieved the same level of importance.

But I also found that youth workers emerged as powerful counters, acting as “anti-Andrew Tate” figures and providing a positive example of manhood. This shows that, while the influence of online figures may seem unstoppable, we already have role models in our communities who can demonstrate an alternative version of what a man can be and how he should act with others.

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Love in the Time of COVID

It feels like so long and yet somehow also no time at all. As we think about navigating social connections—like dating—this new landscape, I want to share a little about some conversations I had with my new friend Missy Modell—the genius behind such internet classics as that Dr. Fauci song love song.

Last week, Missy had made a comment in an instagram story about wanting to continue wearing her mask and I shared that I’m still wearing mine too. As we kept chatting, I drew a parallel between establishing boundaries during sex and establishing boundaries with meeting up during COVID. Missy loved the idea and suggested we have an instagram live to talk about it more. If you’re interested, you can watch it here. We cover a lot of ground, including this similarity between healthy communication while Normal Human Dating and healthy communication navigating social connections in a pandemic.

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